CHANGE

When I started coaching with Arian, the chaos in my life reflected my unstable inner state. I suffered from constant overwhelm, panic attacks, sleep disorders, and chronic exhaustion. I found myself in a vortex of self-doubt, negative thought spirals, and stressful relationship patterns especially my relationship with my daughter, which was marked by powerlessness, emotional outbursts, and deep insecurity. I was driven by inner turmoil and sought support externally: for years in a toxic relationship with my daughter's father. After the breakup, in brief love affairs. Since my early youth, I had regularly consumed alcohol, cigarettes, and other drugs. But it became increasingly difficult to fill the inner void I carried with me. Avoidance strategies and running away no longer worked and I wanted change.
I had been thinking about therapy for a long time and tried a few sessions with different forms of therapy, but I never felt that they could really help me. They didn't speak to my soul.
During my first coaching sessions with Arian, I immediately sensed the possibility of a profound reconnection with myself. Early on in the process, I realized that this wasn't about quick fixes, but about real change. Arian created a space where I could really show myself for the first time with everything that was there: despair, shame, grief, guilt, hope. He met me with clarity and compassion at the same time a combination that gave me security and peace. His presence was never judgmental, but always sincere. He challenged me to face my issues honestly, without overwhelming me.
At first, I found it difficult to let myself in. I was afraid to leave my comfort zone. I felt unprotected. Sometimes it seemed as if Arian could see me as I really am free of all protective shields. There was no room for false representation. My trust grew quickly because I could see the true motivation behind his work which was real healing for people and peace for the world. I let myself get involved.
A decisive turning point was the conscious decision to no longer distract myself with dating, alcohol, or other escape strategies. At first, this reopened old wounds and made my situation feel worse feelings of loneliness, abandonment, deep sadness. But it was precisely through this pain that I began to truly feel myself. Arian accompanied me with great sensitivity, but also with the necessary consistency, always looking back when I would have preferred to run away.
What has changed? I have learned to take responsibility for my inner life. Today, I recognize my own patterns, can expose old beliefs, and more and more often make conscious decisions for peace, for clarity, for connection. I am beginning to feel my needs more clearly and communicate them more lovingly. I can set boundaries without feeling guilty. I have found the courage to look at my past and reconcile with it especially with myself. I have become quieter, more of an observer, and have finally set out on the path to myself. I am still at the beginning, but Arian has shown me how to read my inner map so that I can find my way back at any time instead of panicking when I get lost. I have also learned that it is often easier to walk straight paths that wind through varied natural oases than to constantly climb high mountains and then fall back into deep valleys.
What is particularly touching for me is how my relationship with my daughter has changed. What used to be characterized by conflict, distance, and guilt is now a growing space for closeness, trust, and playful joy. I can be there for her because I am finally there for myself.
I have found the courage to work on relationships and clean them up. As a result, some have grown and become stronger than ever before. I have distanced myself from other people or ended the relationship altogether because I had to. I know that this is the beginning of a new quality of connection not only with her, but with all the important people in my life.
Outwardly, some things have changed for the better at the same time. I have tackled many things, even though there are still big question marks. But I feel up to the task of living my life and am ready to take matters into my own hands instead of being a victim of circumstances or leaving the responsibility to others. I think I have overcome a large part of my ego and feel genuine joy and gratitude for being alive, continuing to work on myself, and growing.
Arian rarely gave me direct answers but he asked the right questions. And he helped me find the answers within myself. He gave me tools and encouraged me to question my thoughts and actions and to feel my own truth from within. His attitude was always characterized by experience, deep knowledge, intuition, and integrity. I always felt seen.
Today, three months later, I am more grounded, clearer, and more authentic. The journey has not always been easy, and I know there will be more challenges ahead. But every step toward greater self-awareness is worth it. I am incredibly grateful for this journey and for the guidance of someone who truly understands what it means to encounter oneself.
I can wholeheartedly recommend this coaching for anyone who is ready to engage with themselves honestly and courageously. It has changed my life.